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tea with tiffany: fill up with good invites

TEA WITH TIFFANY SERIES

TEA WITH TIFFANY SERIES


make sure you think before accepting an invitation
— molly

welcome to my “tea with tiffany” blog series. basically, i am working on a book called, “tea with tiffany,” and i want to share some of it with you! So…here it goes.

i want you to take out a journal. sit and think about how you spend most of your time? school is an obvious time filler…but what else. sports invites aka practice? sleep overs. dance invites. dinner invites. family invites? make your list as you think about your average week starting with monday and ending with sunday. invitations are more or less a reflection of our choices. that is the invites we accept. based on your list, what are you prioritizing? social media? lol, but seriously. do you ever think of a friend request as an invitation? it is. you are also “invited” or shall we say enticed to look at certain profiles, watch certain music videos or listen to particular playlists. our entire life is made up of invitations. what we let into our world has profound effects on us emotionally, mentally.

do your average invitations cause you anxiety? or do they provide you with a peaceful feeling? think about it if you can’t totally answer it. next time you go to make a plan aka accept an invite? think about how it makes you feel! if it isn’t a good feeling? maybe you should replace that invite with something else. like drawing by yourself in your cozy chair with a cup of tea. or sit and create a playlist that inspires you and makes you feel hopeful and motivated!

i want peace for you. i want you to feel empowered and brave by choosing good invitations. you have the power to say yes or no. own that and let that motivate you knowing these little invites now? will effect big you!

love you,

molly


the heart check

we don't talk about the emotional health of our hearts nearly enough. our hearts store up love; love for others and ourselves. a healthy heart it vital for a healthy life. not only do our hearts keep us alive, physically, they keep us alive emotionally. i do this thing called, "the heart check." how does it work? it takes reflection & quiet time. it takes being honest with what you have done and what others have done to do. are you holding onto something negative? that negative emotion, whether it was done by you or someone else, is stuck in your heart. it is taking up space and it needs to be released. forgive that person. forgive yourself. this process requires constant attention. we are imperfect humans who mess up and in order to grow through it, we must first acknowledge it. 

when i was in high school i had my first panic attack. these panic attacks occurred every so often for another 12 years. i have slowly performed "emotional heart surgery" on myself in order to identify why this deep worry and panic crept into my heart and mind over the years. and manifested itself in panic attacks. i have learned just how human i really am. meaning, i have made some bad choices that hurt my heart. i get my feelings hurt, i say things i don't mean, i am human. it’s actually a beautiful thing, we are all more alike that we are different.  if we graciously own it. and work through it. by making smarter choices. by admitting our own weaknesses. treating others with respect, no matter what. prioritizing good people. replace worry with courage. fear with love. love after all drives out darkness, right? said by the one and only Martin Luther King Jr. himself. i couldn't agree with him more. and love makes up our heart! if we take care of our heart and let go of the mistakes, the fear, the hurt, the discouragement and ask by matter of action for joy, love, inspiration, courage...our hearts fill up with light and drive out ( in MLK's words) the darkness. 
It it going to be the best week. 

XX, Molly 

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be thankful for your people

when i was in high school slash college i think i had 200 + friends and maybe 2 or 3 of them were real friends. I used to literally categorize the 200 + crew as, "HI!" friends. we would say hi (lol), hang out socially and occasionally create a memory that i would remember for a month or 2. sad right. it wasn't until post college that i really started to be intentional about the people i chose to connect with. to say i have had my far share of burns is an understatement. but, i haven't really eased up on being friendly, i've just amped up who i am which naturally weeds out those that aren't a good fit.

what i have learned? back then, the people that were supposed to be in my life were right in front of me. always. and those same people are still in my life.  

i was so busy looking around for more friends, friends that fit a certain check list. eww. how dumb and superficial. superficial also has a breaking point. don't wait until you break. 

the best thing i have done in my young adult life? create real relationships. and these relationships are ones that came to me organically. they were right in front of me. no agenda. no forcing connections or manipulating pieces of the process. truly. your real relationships that are meant to sustain you and encourage you are most likely right in front of you. they may look different than expected. they may not be the coolest. they're for you and therefore as cool as it relationships get! Who defines cool anyway? YOU! 

...to making amazing friendships this year!

XX, Molly


3 things …to maintain inspiration

i love quiet time. i have learned to cherish it actually. some of us may be more inclined to routine while others feel comfortable going with the flow. i am in the routine camp. i have my "go with the flow" sides but for the most part i crave structure and fluidity in my day to day life. I eat at the same time most days. i wake up every morning around 6 AM and meditate. i like routine. i think by adding a few things in our life that we prioritize, (outside of what is expected of us) allows for us to maintain a hopeful perspective and inspiration. think of things that are important to you. make a list. 1 through 3, listing out the 3 most sacred and loved things to you. Mine? 1. early mornings with quiet & prayer 2. physical activity outside! 3. books. i have to make time for my tea and my books. even if its 25 minutes. 

be true to who you are by listening to what your heart needs. it makes us better friends. better daughters. when your heart is full? 1. we worry less. 2. we give more. 3. we feel. when we are able to feel we are able to experience life in an honest way, relative to your own story. we can apply our feelings towards what we create, everyday. some of us create recipes, families, school-work, art, friendships. we all create everyday. stay inspired so that your creating reflects the truest version of you! 

Cheers to the best year. 

XX, Molly 

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words

so often we hear words like amazing, brilliant, magical, spectacular, unimaginable. do we sometimes forget to grasp the depths of these words, their meaning and choose to harness the power they hold?! lets break down the word, unimaginable: beyond ones wildest dreams, unheard of, indescribable. what do you imagine for yourself this year? are you playing it safe...sticking to control verse stepping into what faith could bring? holding onto words that caused you some pain or even an experience you so wish could be wiped out? yes to all of the above for me!  

"make room in your heart for the unimaginable." stopped me in my tracks this morning. we do play apart every single day in our own journey. we have to make room. we have to say no to the negative thoughts, no to the lies, and yes to truth which is, the unimaginable can happen. it happens every day, all around us, and our turn can be next. my hope for you is that regardless of circumstances, you experience the unimaginable. my hope is that by releasing the old your heart will be replaced with unthinkable ideas, moments and relationships that will bless you over and over and over again! 

Happy NEW year, 

XX, Molly 

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LIGHTS. CAMERA. ACTION.


i like to think of life like a camera. each morning we wake up. each morning as the sun hits our eyes we immediately cling to certain memories, thoughts, expectations and responsibilities. sometimes waking up is exciting and full of hope while other times we wish we could sleep, all day, and avoid whats in front of our lens. its OK. we are all humans who have good days and bad days.

where there is a camera there is light. where there is perspective, there is light. we have a choice to make. we can tilt our heads towards the light, in spite of what else might be in the picture at the moment! “perspective is everything” is my brothers personal motto and as i do life and experience sad days and happy days, i see the light in all of it. i do.

i just lost my baby kitty, who wasn’t such a baby. he was 5 years young who happened to have an internal issue i didn’t know about. i had to say goodbye very unexpectedly a week ago. teddy bear was given to me from a friend of mine…who has now become a soul sister. bear took our friendship down a more honest, real, open road and now my heart is a little bigger because of him. he gave me his heart and a real, real good friend. see, light. it’s there but sometimes we have to be open to receiving it no matter what the circumstances look like. what is your camera aka your perspective focused on? during this holiday season, take in extra light, cause i know it’s there. whether its the snow that falls to the ground or a warm yummy meal, my hope is that you are full of light this holiday season.

Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!

Molly

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i am thankful for…


Hi! 
So I can't believe its already Thanksgiving 2018. How, why does time go so quickly? For me, the faster time seems to fly, the more intentional I want to be. I am trying to take advantage of every moment I have in a day. Like really think about what I am doing, how I am spending my time? Who am I talking to or NOT talking to. Everyday we have countless organic  opportunities to connect with people, places and create new memories, lasting relationships and make beautiful choices that fill up our cups so completely. Be awake, moment by moment. Step outside for a walk because you have an open window and don't know what else to do.Take in the fresh, chilly air. Make tea and sit with a book and learn about something new instead of turning on your TV. Go up to that long lost friend you just saw out of the corner of your eye. Talk to her, really listen to her. You never know what that conversation may lead to... 

 
As I start to think about my Thanksgiving table, who will take up all 14 chairs, I can't help but feel supremely grateful. Grateful for everything. Grateful for the grace I have received, day in and day out. Grateful for the friendships I have made over my 31 years in spite of my zany, all over the place personality. Grateful for my two hands that allow me to type out this letter to you. 

I can't wait for tomorrow. Another gift. Another day to say hello to the people I love and sit and chat with my family. Set the table with my mom and just take in the unknown moments that come. Free of controlling my moments and over -planning my moments, rather choosing to plant my feet in trusting that moments will come to me. I think by living moment by moment we feel more. We become more connected to our little worlds and can't help but feel tremendous amounts of gratitude. And gratitude? Provides a full healthy, happy heart. Happy Thanksgiving to all of you!!  

XX, Molly 

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Molly Says… look for the rainbows!



To know quiet 
is to feel the sun
and understand where rain comes from.


We move fast. Let me rephrase that, I move fast! Most days have their usual routines with a side of surprise. The most routine factor in my day happens to be moving fast. I have to check myself every single morning as my natural speed tends to be 100 MPH. I have learned from past train wrecks and experiences in order to feel the sun and see the rainbows, I must slow down.  

I was hanging with one of my GF's the other day and we both agreed with the fact that it's hard to seek quiet. It's hard not to feel lazy, distracted, guilty about sitting down and reading a book or taking the time to draw on your dining room table? WHY? These types of activities are what feed our soul and point us towards the sun! 

Personally, I am this confused ball of scary because on one hand I crave the sun and rainbows and peace, but on the other hand my mind seems to travel at the speed of light making it extremely difficult to just be. I think lots of us struggle with this, no? To make matters more layered, our "daily surprises" often leave us confused. I say to myself weekly, "OVER IT!"

What am I getting at? I think the trick to all of this is quiet. Stillness. Being alone, with yourself, letting your mind settle and be and wander. This time allows us to process the rain, the clouds looming or recognize the crazy rainbow we just experienced! Stillness brings peace and peace points to our sunny, rainbow like moments that create in all of us a sense of joy, hopefulness and connection! Here is to seeing SO MANY rainbows this week! 

XX, Molly 

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SEASONS CHANGE & SO DO WE


I think because it's now officially September and Starbucks put out pumpkin spice lattes and I planted my mum's already, mentally, I am living in October. Living in October means I am ready for pumpkins on the porch and waking up to a chill in the air. I want to sip my coffee on my rocking chair with thick socks on and bundle up in a blanket. Seasons amaze me. Does that sound kind of weird? Maybe. Either way, I think every single human hopes for newness. I believe we were all born to evolve and that process creates inside each one of us a hope for change, a newness. We all tend to find ourselves in unexpected places at times and that's OK. Personally, I am thankful for those places. I think those unexpected places force us to dig deeper. They encourage us to find the strength within us to step out and pursue something new. 

If you scroll down I leave you with a quote from one of my favorites, F.Scott Fitzgerald. To summarize, his quote motivates us to never stop hoping for that thing inside of you that says, "There is more!" There is more. You, me, all of us have crazy potential, dreams, desires, gifts and talents. Don't ever doubt that for one second. Take this fall season to step out and do that "thing" that you have been putting off. Do it. Don't worry about what anyone will think or how it may turn out. After all, aren't the things that scare us the most usually the things that end up changing are lives forever? 

XX, Molly